Many parents resort to Do not negotiate with your child by money, without realizing the danger of this approach on both educational and financial levels. As an honest advisor, I present this article advising you not to negotiate with your child using money and destroy all the roots of sound education that you have built due to this wrong behavior. We will summarize for you the risks of using money as a negotiating tool with children.
Do not negotiate with your child by money
There are many reasons and negative consequences that affect child rearing as a result of negotiating with them using money, and these are what prompted me to write this article. I will summarize these reasons for you as follows:
Duties must be performed for their importance
Performing prayer, cleaning the child’s room, or completing homework are all necessary tasks that the child should do without being given money.
However, moral incentives such as encouragement, motivation, and showing joy to the child when they do so can be offered.
But if we link these necessary duties to money, it may lead to the child neglecting these tasks if money is not provided.
A motivation for deception
The child may resort to many tricks to deceive their parents in order to get money.
They may claim to be sick or not have enough time to do something, but they may do it if they receive money.
Parents may be forced to give the child money in exchange for completing necessary duties that the child should be doing without being paid.
Planting wrong financial concepts
The child grows up with many wrong concepts, as they are raised with the principle that they will get money when they do their duties.
This duty will become a burden on them later on, and they will not do it without money, as well as voluntary and additional work, and helping their siblings.
They will be raised with a materialistic upbringing devoid of any emotions.
If they receive money for their necessary duties, how can you ask them to help an elderly man or their sibling or do anything else without money?
It is difficult to stop providing the child with money
There is a famous saying that goes, What is learned in youth is carved on stone.
If you have accustomed your child to giving them money for everything they do, what will you do when you do not have enough money or it is not available?
Will you teach them the legitimate ways to get money then, after it’s too late?
Performing tasks out of love for parents
The child should do their duties out of love for their parents and full conviction in everything they say.
If you cannot convince your child when they are young, how will you convince them when they grow up?