Childhood has its characteristics that require understanding it in a manner commensurate with this special stage, and there have been many scientific studies and research that have dealt with this stage.
The Messenger of God (may God’s prayers and peace be upon him) dealt with many matters about their issues and problems.
We will discuss a part of them, and it is like the tip of the iceberg of the wisdom of the Messenger of God (may God’s prayers and peace be upon him), which is like educational positions for parents, all of which we learned from Sahih Al-Bukhari.
Thank them.. and be kind. It is well known that many children when they make a mistake, wait for the parents to blame or reckon with them.
However, few of them give him thanks when he does a good deed, so he is not as keen on thanking and praising as he is keen on reprimanding or punishing.
[Ibn Abbas said: The Messenger of God included me and said: O God, teach him the Book] [And Ibn Abbas said: I put an ablution for the Prophet (may God bless him and grant him peace) He said: Who put this? so tell; He said: Oh God, grant him understanding in religion].
[When Anas served the Messenger of God (may God bless him and grant him peace), the Prophet (may God bless him and grant him peace) called for him and said: “Oh God, increase his wealth and his children and bless him in what you gave him.”
Many children see that adults greet each other and exchange greetings with each other, but they see that some adults ignore them. The Prophet (may God bless him and grant him peace) passed by children who were playing..
and said to them: “Peace be upon you, O boys” [on the authority of Anas bin Malik (may God be pleased with him) that he passed by two boys and greeted them and said: The Prophet used to do that].
However, it does not prevent children from participating in greeting or saluting adults.
[The Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said: The little one greets the old, the passer-by greets the seated person, and the few greet the many].
Tell him: I love you.
It is nice for many children to hear their parents say to them: They love them as much as the whole world, but it is more beautiful for fathers and mothers to make them feel this love and warmth.
Al-Bara’, may God be pleased with him, said: I saw the Prophet and Al-Hassan bin Ali on his shoulder saying: “O God, I love him, so love him.”
On the authority of Abu Hurairah, may God be pleased with him, he said: The Messenger of God adhered to Al-Hassan bin Ali, so he said, “O God, I love him, so I love him, and I love whoever loves him.”
Play is a necessity, and play is an important necessity in a child’s life, and deprivation of it completely has its psychological and social effects.
Play for children is a basic meal that is difficult to give up or forget. However, some parents are grateful for their children when they allow them to play, and they do not consider that a right for them.
On the authority of Aisha (may God be pleased with her), she said: I used to play with girls in the house of the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, and I had companions who played with me, so the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, when he entered, would suppress them.
from him, so they leak them to me and play with me.
Kissing and tenderness
And just as playing is a right for them, tenderness, giving, and mercy are among their rights. On the authority of Abu Hurairah (may God be pleased with him) who said: The Messenger of God kissed Al-Hassan bin Ali while he was sitting with Al-Aqra’ bin Habis Al-Tamimi.
Al-Aqra’ said: I have ten children and I have never kissed any of them. He looked at him.
The Messenger of God then said: He who does not show mercy will not be shown mercy.
On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her, she said: A Bedouin came to the Prophet (may God bless him and grant him peace) and said: Do you accept boys, but we do not accept them?
The Prophet said: Do you have any hope that God will remove mercy from your heart? Love all childhood It is beautiful to love our children, but it is more beautiful to love all children as well, so the view of the Messenger (may God bless him and grant him peace) rises to this stage in its comprehensive sense and not in its limited sense.
On the authority of Anas (may God be pleased with him), he said: The Prophet saw women and boys coming (from a wedding), so the Prophet stood up as a representative, and said: Oh God, you are the most beloved of people to me, O God, you are the most beloved of people to me, O God, you are the most beloved of people to me) He said it three times.
On the authority of Osama bin Zaid (may God be pleased with them both), it was narrated that the Prophet used to take him and al-Hasan, and say, “O God, love them both, for I love them both.”
Men’s runways If it is easy for many to talk to a child, it is difficult to address this child in a way that suits his mentality, perceptions, and perception.
Some fathers try to entrust their son with a certain task that is not commensurate with his abilities, and that harms him more than it benefits him, and instead of helping him establish self-confidence, he squanders his self-confidence.
His mother, Zainab bint Hamid, took him to the Messenger of God, and she said: O Messenger of God, pledge allegiance to him.
The Prophet said: He is young, so he wiped his head and prayed for him. On the authority of Al-Bara’, he said: Ibn Umar and I were looked down upon on the day of Badr.
Preparing for leadership, However, for those who have wonderful talents and superior capabilities to assume huge responsibilities, it is useful to invest these energies, capabilities, and talents and not to hinder them.
As Usama bin Zaid took over the leadership of the Muslim army by choosing the Messenger of God (may God bless him and grant him peace) and his will, Abu Bakr implemented it in his caliphate.
The value of work and keenness to encourage these talents (the Messenger of God sent a woman to tell your servant, the carpenter, to make sticks for me to sit on), (that a woman said, O Messenger of God, should I not make something for you to sit on, for I have a boy who is a carpenter.
The Messenger of God said: If you wish, I made the pulpit.
Developing imagination, and it is nice for our children to have the ability to imagine and visualize, and the most beautiful of them is to make a commitment and invest in this imagination and appreciate it according to its value.
On the authority of Ibn Omar (may God be pleased with them both), he said: We were with the Messenger of God, and he said: Tell me of a tree that resembles a Muslim or a Muslim man, whose leaf does not fall And it bears fruit every time.
Ibn Omar said: So it occurred to me that it is the palm tree, and I saw Abu Bakr and Omar not speaking, so I hated to speak, so when they did not say anything, the Messenger of God said: It is the palm tree.
It is the palm tree, and he said: What prevented you from speaking?
Teach them to love worship, and it is nice for our children to have a chance in the acts of worship that draw us closer to God.
To get them accustomed to it and to attach these special moments to their minds, Abu Qatada told us, he said: “The Prophet came out to us with Bint Abi Al-Aas in front of him, and he prayed.
(On the authority of Al-Sa’ib bin Yazid, he said: Hajj was performed by me with the Messenger of God when I was seven years old), and there was ample luck in learning the sciences if they were able or liked it.
I came to you from the Prophet, truly, and they said, Pray such and such a prayer at such and such a time. When I prostrated, I used to shrink from me.
So they bought and cut me a shirt, so I was not happy with anything as I was with that shirt).
Compassion for Mother Aisha (may God be pleased with her) said: “The Messenger of God commanded us to put people in their homes.”
If the Messenger of God (may God’s prayers and peace be upon him) had commanded us to teach children to pray, for example, and this is their duty, except that he placed for them a right in the same act of worship by easing the prayer for them.
The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said: “I stand up for prayer and I want to make it longer, and I hear a boy crying.
So I allow myself in my prayer because I hate to be hard on his mother.”
That is, before he performs his duties, let him take his rights.
Gentleness It is nice to talk to children, but it is more beautiful to approach their level and through their world, not ours, and they should enjoy a space of responsible freedom.
On the authority of Umm Khalid bint Khalid bin Saeed, she said: I came to the Messenger of God with my father wearing a yellow shirt. God: I wear and create, then I wear and create, then I wear and create.
Abdullah said: I stayed until he mentioned, meaning from her survival.
Education is a responsibility, and it is nice to advise children other than our own when we see some mistake from them, but it is more beautiful to be careful about the manners of the rest of the children.
Ibn Umar (may God be pleased with them both) entered Yahya bin Saeed and a boy from Bani Yahya tied to a chicken to throw, so Ibn Umar walked to it until he untied it, then he approached it and the boy with him and said: Rebuke your boy so that this bird is patient to be killed,
for I heard the Prophet forbade it from being patient. beast or other to kill.
Listening to dreams and aspirations It is nice to share their reality with our children, and the most beautiful thing is not to forget to share with them even some of their dreams, because their dreams are not always dreams of birds, as they may have roots that extend them to reality or change the path.
On the authority of Ibn Omar, he said: Men from the companions of the Prophet used to see dreams during the time of the Messenger of God, and they would tell them to the Messenger of God, and the Messenger of God would say about them, God willing,
and I am a young boy of recent age and my house is the mosque before I got married, so I said to myself:
If there was good in you, I would have seen the same as what He sees these, and when I lay down one night, I said: Oh God, if you know good about me, show me a vision, while I am like that when two angels came to me, each one of them in the hand of an iron suppressor,
kissing me to hell, and between them I pray to God: O God, I seek refuge in You From hell, then he showed me an angel in his hand with an iron suppressor, and he said: You will not be observed, how good a man you are if you pray a lot.
A king in his hand is an iron suppressor, and I see in it men hanging with chains, their heads below them.
So Hafsa told it to the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, and the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said: “Abdullah is a righteous man if he used to pray at night.” Nafi’ said: After that, he continued to pray a lot.
Competing in the love of the Messenger Children is an essential building block in building society and with him being a child, we should not ignore him when he is between the world of adults, and his opinion that he went to is respected, especially if he chooses between two things and chooses between them for the wisdom of what he sees.
On the authority of Sahl bin Saed, may God be pleased with him, he said: A cup was brought to the Prophet and he drank from it, and on his right was a boy of the youngest of the people and the elders on his left, so he said: O boy, will you permit me to give him the elders?