Childhood has its characteristics that require understanding it in a manner commensurate with this special stage and there have been many scientific studies and research that have dealt with this stage.
The manner of Allah’s messenger with children (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him)
The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) dealt with many matters about their issues and problems. We will discuss a part of them, it is like the tip of the iceberg about the wisdom of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him), which is like educational positions for parents, all of which we learned from Sahih Al-Bukhari.
Thank them and be kind. It is well known that many children when they make a mistake, wait for the parents to blame or reckon with them. However, few of them give thanks when the child does a good deed, so he is not as keen on thanking and praising as he is keen on reprimanding or punishing.
Bin Abbas said: The Messenger of Allah hugged me and said: “O God, teach him the Book”. And bin Abbas said: I put an ablution for the Prophet (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) asked: “Who put this?” He replied, then the prophet said: “Oh God, grant him understanding in religion”.
When Anas served the Messenger of God (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him), the Prophet called for him and said: “Oh God, increase his wealth, his children and bless him in what you gave him.”
Many children see that adults greet each other and exchange greetings with each other, but when it comes on children some adults ignore them.
The Prophet (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) passed by children who were playing and said to them: “O boys, peace be upon you”, on the authority of Anas bin Malik (may God be pleased with him) that he passed by two boys and greeted them. However, he does not prevent children from participating in greeting or saluting adults. The Prophet (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) said: “The little one greets the old, the passer-by greets the seated person and the few greet the many”.
Tell him: I love you. It is nice for many children to hear their parents say to them that They love them as much as the whole world, but it is more beautiful for fathers and mothers to make them feel this love and warmth.
Al-Bara’ (may God be pleased with him) said: I saw the Prophet and Al-Hassan bin Ali on his shoulder saying: “O God, I love him, so may you love him.”
On the authority of Abu Hurairah (may God be pleased with him) said: “The Messenger of Allah adhered to Al-Hassan bin Ali and said, “O God, I love him, so may you love him and I love whoever loves him.”
Play is an important necessity in a child’s life and deprivation of it completely has its psychological and social effects, as it’s a basic meal that is difficult to give up or forget. However, some parents are grateful for their children when they allow them to play and they don’t consider that its a right for them.
On the authority of Aisha (may God be pleased with her) said: “I used to play with girls in the house of the Prophet (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) and I had companions who played with me, so the Messenger when he entered, he would suppress them”.
You can also read about: The Art of raising children.
Kissing and tenderness are some basics of raising a child
And just as playing is a right for them, tenderness, giving, and mercy are some of their rights. On the authority of Abu Hurairah (may God be pleased with him) who said: “The Messenger kissed Al-Hassan bin Ali while he was sitting with Al-Aqra’ bin Habis Al-Tamimi”. Al-Aqra’ said: I have ten children and I have never kissed any of them. The Messenger of Allah looked at him then said: “who does not show mercy will not be shown mercy”.
On the authority of Anas (may God be pleased with him) said: The Prophet saw women and boys coming out from a wedding, so the Prophet stood up as a representative and said: “Oh God, you are the most beloved one to me, O God, you are the most beloved one to me, O God, you are the most beloved one to me” He said it three times.
On the authority of Osama bin Zaid (may God be pleased with them both), it was narrated that the Prophet used to take him and al-Hasan, and say “O God, i love them both, you may love them both.”
It is easy for many to talk to a child, but it is difficult to address this child in a way that suits his mentality, perceptions, and perception.
Some fathers try to entrust their son with a certain task that is not commensurate with his abilities, it may harms him more than benefits him and instead of helping him to establish self-confidence, he squanders his self-confidence.
Zainab bint Hamid took her son to the Messenger of Allah and said: “O Messenger of God, pledge allegiance to him”. The Prophet said: “He is young”, wiped his head and prayed for him.
Preparing for leadership, for those who have wonderful talents and superior capabilities to assume huge responsibilities, it is useful to invest these energies, capabilities, talents and not to hinder them. As Usama bin Zaid took over the leadership of the Muslim army by choosing of the Messenger and his will, Abu Bakr implemented it in his caliphate.
Kindness and softness are main goals of raising a child
Aisha (may God be pleased with her) said: “The Messenger of Allah commanded us to put people in their positions.” Even if the Messenger (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) had commanded us to teach children to pray and this is their duty, but he placed for them a right to ease the prayer on them in the same act of worship. The Messenger said: “I stand up for prayer and want to make it longer then I heard a boy crying, so I fastened myself in prayer because didn’t want to harden on his mother.” As before he performs his duties, let him take his rights.
Gentleness when we talk to children, but the most beautiful is approaching their level and through their world not ours and they should enjoy a space of responsible freedom.
Education is a responsibility and it is nice to advise children other than our own when we see some mistake from them, but it is more beautiful to be careful about the manners of children.
Listening and understanding the child
Listening to dreams and aspirations is nice to share their reality with our children and the most beautiful thing is not to forget sharing with them even some of their dreams, because their dreams are not always dreams of birds, as they may have roots that extend them to reality or change the path.
Competing in the love of the Messenger Children is an essential building block in society, we should not ignore the child when he is between the world of adults and his opinion is respected, especially if he chooses between two things and chooses for the wisdom of what he sees.
On the authority of Sahl bin Saed, (may God be pleased with him) he said: A cup was brought to the Prophet and he drank from it, on his right side was a boy of the youngest people and the elders on his left he asked: “O boy, will you permit me to give him the elders?” he replied ” i would prefer to give my shares to anyone from you” then he gave to him.
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