Ethics requires time, patience, and great effort from a person to become part of his character and behavior
Therefore, Islam urged the child to be brought up on morals from the beginning, because this is easier than getting used to in old age, because neglecting this matter leads to the corruption of the individual, then the family, and thus the corruption of society.
On the authority of Ayyub bin Musa bin Amr bin Saeed bin Al-Aas, on the authority of his father, on the authority of his grandfather: that the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said: “No bee treats a father to his child better than good manners.” Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi.
There are many etiquettes for every situation and every behavior that a person does in his day, such as the etiquette of eating, sleeping, riding, going out, asking permission, and others. We must teach them all to the child.
There are general morals on which we must train the child in dealing with the Qur’an, scholars, the elderly, and others.
Taking care of the child emotionally and psychologically
In the Messenger of God, we have a good example of his relationship with his two grandsons, Al-Hassan and Al-Hussein.
And in Al-Bukhari on the authority of Osama, the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, and Al-Hassan bin Ali used to sit with me and say: Oh God, I love them, so I love them.
And in Muslim’s narration, Anas says: “By God, I have not seen anyone who was more merciful to children than the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him.” (narrated by Muslim)
And on the authority of Abu Hurairah, may God be pleased with him, that Al-Aqra’ bin Habis saw the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, kissing Al-Hassan, and he said: I have ten children, and I have not kissed one of them. Bukhari ).
And also the story of the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, with the child and his bird that died, and how the Prophet cared for his feelings, consoled him and eased his burden.
Therefore, Islam pays great attention to promoting the mental health of the child, because it is an essential pillar in the upbringing of a person of sound mind and soul.
Building a Child’s Faith
A person is held accountable for not teaching the faith to their children because it is the basis on which a person’s destiny is linked, whether it be heaven or hell, victory or loss in this world and the hereafter.
Building a child’s faith is through:
Teach the child the word monotheism from childhood.
Endearing the child to God, the Prophet, the Prophets, and the Companions.
Tell stories to the child that help him love his religion.
Memorizing the Qur’an for children from an early age.
Teaching the child the meanings of the Qur’an.
Training and accustoming the child to worship.
Take the child to the mosque.
Taking the child to science councils.
Raising the child on the righteousness of the parents
Honoring parents is not an innate behavior, but it is acquired and the child is trained in it.
In the beginning, parents honor their children through the previous points, and then the children are required to honor their parents.
Unfortunately, this responsibility also falls on the educator, so his son must know the reward for honoring his parents.
He trains his son to help him when he is young, asking him for help.
Alerts the child if he makes a mistake in a parent.
The educator should be a role model for his child in righteousness with grandparents.
methods of disciplining a child
There are many ways to deal with children’s behavior and to know the correct ones and the wrong ones, we must know that the Prophet used several disciplinary methods with children and with his companions.
Children go through many behavioral problems, especially in the early stages of life, so the educator must have many tools and means to raise the child properly.
On the authority of Abu Hurairah, the Prophet, peace be upon him, said: “Whoever said to my boy: He came to you, then he did not give him anything, so it is a lie.”
This is the greatest lesson in the importance of being a role model for the child, even in the simplest of actions.
And the educator, if he wants to raise his children properly, must raise himself with them and before them, because this will save him a lot of time and effort.
Choosing the right time for guidance
The Messenger, may God bless him and grant him peace, used to choose the appropriate time and place for guidance.
He used to choose the time of the road and the picnic to direct advice, such as the hadith of Ibn Abbas, may God be pleased with them, which was narrated by Al-Tirmidhi.
And the time of eating is like a hadeeth, oh boy, name of God.
Parents should choose appropriate times, according to the situation, to guide the child. For example, if your child suffers from the problem of lying and you have a guest and the child tells you something while he is lying, do not speak to the child or direct him in front of the guest. Rather, you ignore the situation completely and talk to the child afterward on your own.
Justice and equality between children
Lack of justice and equality between children is the door to a great sedition that breaks the ties of kinship and stirs up hatred and enmity between brothers, so you must be careful in dealing with your children.
So the Prophet commanded justice and equality in a hadith
Tell us Yahya bin Yahya. He said: I read on the authority of Malik on the authority of Ibn Shihab, on the authority of Hamid bin Abd al-Rahman, on the authority of Muhammad bin al-Nu`man bin Bashir. They tell him about Al-Nu’man bin Bashir; He said: His father brought him to the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, and said: I have given birth to this son of mine, a boy who was mine. The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said: “Did your son eat his bee like this?” He replied: No. The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said (so take him back).
Many of the conflicts between young brothers will find among their reasons the feeling of one of the brothers that he is wronged or that the mother stands by his brother. Therefore, every educator must learn how to properly resolve the differences between the brothers so as not to cause problems for them in their relationship with each other in old age.
Giving the child his rights:
The Messenger, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, urges that we respect the child, give him his rights, and accept the truth even if it is from a child because this will give the child a positive feeling of love for life and love for the truth.
One of the best situations that we learn from is what was narrated by Sahl bin Saad – may God be pleased with him – who said: (A cup was brought to the Messenger of God – may God bless him and grant him peace – and he drank, and on his right was a boy who was the youngest (youngest) of the people, and the elders were on his left. May I give it to the elders? He said: I would not prefer my share to anyone from you, O Messenger of God, so he gave it to him) Narrated by Al-Bukhari.